Hi, and welcome to this site. I'm Malachy Coleman and I've been working as a psychotherapist in Nantes, France for over ten years now.
One aspect of my clinical work is psychogenealogy which is a fancy way of talking about what the ancestors got up to before you popped up in the family tree. Looking at life from the therapy angle, we therapists tend to be concerned about what those ancestors didn't resolve in some way, all that unfinished business of theirs they tend to hand on. And that hot potatoe, for whatever reason, has somehow fallen into your lap and you're dancin', not knowin' what to do about it, right?.
Hopefully, I will be able to give you a few hints and suggestions via this site about what to do about that particular psychogenealogical hot potatoe before you get your fingers truely burnt to a crisp. This site, I should say, is my take on psychogenealogy. If you ask someone else what it is, they might just give a slightly different answer or state some very different working crieteria.
A really important element which is hard to get across in the very cool medium of websites is the emotional implication necessary for this work. Yes, it is important to establish the facts, to straighten out or establish the chronology, to come to a better understanding. Ok, for about 6% of people, that's enough and they are off and running. But for most, this is only the beginning of the journey.
A family tree is like a mandala. You look at it one day and you don't see anything of any interest. You begin to think you are wasting your time with all this tree stuff. A week later, you glance at it again, and hey presto, you see something that has been staring you in the face for months and, inexplicably, you start bawling crying. And then after, there is a strange feeling of release.
It's scary crossing the emotional bit. That's why it's better to be with like-minded people, or work with a therapist. If after rooting round your tree nothing changes, well then, perhaps you haven't crossed the emotional bit. Maybe you are holding back with good reason, and for that, it's good to have found appropriate support.
As time goes on, I am going to be adding stuff, so if there doesn't seem to be a lot here for the moment, be patient and check back later, or leave me your email so that I can update you.
And of course, all comments, questions, suggestions are truely welcome and I will do my best to reply to them promptly.
And lastly, take what's best for you from here, and hey, leave all the rest behind.